In the beginning of a relation ship everything looks so beautiful, romantic, and full of love. You and your couple still feel full of passion love. But by the time, roman decreases. A lot of things make you disappoint with him and make a potency of problem.
Based on wedding expert and book writer of Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix, Ph.D, the decreasing of love happens because we often do and think negative things, for example, critic him, angry, and blame each other.
Based brain storming done by Hendrix, as a response to negative things we do, in the brain will form a new nerve connection. “It is not only damage your brain, but also your relationship”, he said. “If you let it, a lot of couples choose to break up”
to avoid it, Hendrix suggests you to attune think positive. “the more you focus on something, the more you get”, he said. To help you keep focus, he designed a train called by positive flooding, consists of three steps.
1. Start with write all you admire from him. Ask him to do the same things, and then exchange it to read by each of you.
2. Now, each of you make a list about any things or quality that want to be appreciated more by you couple. For example you write “I want you to say that you like my body”, or he writes “I want you to appreciate how hard effort to work for family”
3. Continue this activity by make some lists that you want, as positive as possible.
By always focus on positive things both of you can learn to do something that is not objected by your couple. In this stage, you and he finally can show appreciation, empathy, and veracity to improve a romantic and happy relationship.
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