Who do not want to have a perfect couple? But do not forget, no one in this world is perfect. All have their own weaknesses, just how we anticipate and overcome it wisely.
Like Rany, who always feels uncomfortable every time she spends time with her boy friend, Arman, he is so taciturn so that make her confuse when she spends time just with him. finally, the have a cold relationship, wide apart because there is connectivity that unite them anymore. Sometime built in the name of love end fast.
so, to make your relationship with the taciturn is not ended like them, take a look on these tips.
1. my couple is unique!
every individual is created with their own uniqueness. So that you and him. so, start to dig every uniqueness he has, it is included his hobby and what he likes. If he is too taciturn and introvert to tell about himself, find it through his daily activities. If he likes sport, offer him to do it together. If it is necessary, ask his close friends so that you will know who are his friends. Do not be lazy to joint his activities.
2. Know his friends
there is an aphorism says, the true form ourselves are reflected in our close friends who always color our life for a long time. Well, so does your couple. Know more about his friends. Find a time to know them and ask them to hang out together.
Sometime, dinner or lunch together can be done without him next to you. If you can know his friends closely. Start to dig any positive information about him that you have not known yet. So that, you will have a lot of conversation topic to be told with him deeper. Fishhook him to get out from his nest.
3. every things has two sides
once, on a relationship, you are drowsy by your own attitude. You are too focusing on yourself and your life. Seemed, that you are the only who need to be cared and heard all complain about your couple. Change soon! Everything has two side. But, all have to have mutualism symbiosis or connect each other.
Good communication works well if it is a two ways communication. Start to be a good fisher, focus your attention to him. Open a conversation with topic that he likes. Say, all men may crazy of football. Well, learn it and get your knowledge about this sport wider.
4. enjoy “silence”
not often, silence is a fun. So, do not antipasti with this attitude. After tired from all of your daily activities and jobs, sometime meet him is a tool to complain about our jobs in the office. If you often do that, soon, your relationship will become unhealthy, and only full of your complain.
Togetherness moments with his has to be spent by know each other. Laugh, or even silence but smile each other is a sign of your deepest love that you can do. It will give deeper meaning than talking much for shuck things. Silence, sometime can be a medicine to calm you down. Try it by yourself!
5. Enjoy slurping waves in the beach
get bored with your activity in the office, or another bustle, of course it needs much time, energy, and mind every day, even, your smile disappear fast. To return all the happiness, not as easy as turn your hands. If you force yourself or force him to keep smile, cheer up, and has a lot of fun things to be told, you are wrong! Every human need a condition called by take a break.
What can be done? Take a leave and have a holiday! Go to beach and be silence, listen to slurping of the waves with him. Relax and sink yourself with him in a silence condition accompanies by beach sands in your feet. Talk only about how beautiful the beach is, not others. Be disappeared in a silence. Calm yourself, follow the silence process of your couple and enjoy your vacation with him.
5. talk from heart to heart
if he is really a taciturn, it means you same with him too. It will be difficult to step to next level of relationship. If you are in this position but you want to struggle on your relationship, ask him to talk from heart to heart. Ask him without make him offended, what makes him so taciturn. So do you, be honest with him, what make you so silence with him.
sometime, people be taciturn because they feel shy, confuse, and scare if their couple will laugh on them, or consider that their stories are nothing, not confident, and there are still a lot of factors. So why do not you initiative first to ask him for a discussion and share the story behind his silence. After you know it, it will be easy for you to know him deeper so that make him comfortable have a conversation and share his story with you.